Best Moments {A Less Digital Life…Day 31}


I started October thinking about hypotheticals, the ingredients of my everyday dream life and how technology fit or didn’t fit the vision. I’m ending the month thinking back on actuality, all the dreamy and dull and demanding experiences that made up my days. I took on the challenge of this series right before bailing the blog, bidding farewell to the big kids and hitting the road for a reprise on the honeymoon.

There was the throwing of laundry and pushing of buttons, a quick swish-swash and a token toss in the dryer before the heathered tee and other stray pieces of clothing, ready or not, had to join the bags in the car. Sometimes you need a view from above, to see a stretch of time as a tale from history Continue reading

The Thirst for Community {A Less Digital Life…Day 17}


In little droplets we give and get. 140 characters or less do their best to articulate the everyday mercy, the wide-eyed wonder, the treasure in the earthen vessel @thismoment. Maybe an is like a thousand words; or maybe it’s more like a cave drawing, a chalky sketch that leaves us wanting for details. We can’t write a blog post more than 500 words if we actually want someone to read it. We reel in one-liner comments on Facebook. We txt instead of call, shorten r words 2 get a quick point across, think there must be an emergency when the phone actually rings. Always little droplets. Continue reading

If the Tee Fits: The (in)RL Beach House Is Back Again

I hadn’t payed much attention to what I was wearing yesterday morning. I had rolled out of bed in my pajamas and stayed in them after sending my son off to school. But when I opened my browser to enter my details in little boxes for the second go ‘round of (in)courage’s worldwide meet-up, I looked down and noticed the letters sticking out in 3D over my expanding belly. Screen print stretched on the comfiest of cotton and lycra with the word (in)RL.

I’ve loved the (in)courage community since I first found my way there through Ann Voskamp’s blog. All of these likeminded women full of creativity and wisdom, I saw them gather together at the beach house for their (in)courage writers’ retreat. When I first saw those pictures and read their reflections, I was writing alone…no one to bounce ideas off of, no venue for sharing, no one near who fully resonated with my attraction to expressing ideas in the written word.

Then, I got invited to the beach house…or, rather, the beach house came to me. I went to (in)RL last year knowing one college friend out of a whole table full of women. But the introductions that day spring-boarded relationships that made my online life feel less virtual and more 3D, like the letters on my tee turned materni-tee, like the (in)courage ladies at the beach house talking out loud over the sound of waves, showing emotion in facial expressions instead of emoticons.

Since that meet-up last April, several of us local bloggers have continued to meet at cafes or schedule summer play dates with the kids in tow. We have helped each other roll out of bed in the morning, encouragement that I desperately needed when exhaustion and morning sickness tried to keep my eyes closed past the alarm clock this fall. We attended Influence together and widened our circle to new locals. And this winter, I’ve pulled up a chair to the lovely classics book club I kept hearing so much about.

Now, when we see each other on-line, we know the voice behind the words, the face behind the avatar.

Things look a little different for me this spring than the last. This expanding belly means I’m trading one happy event for another. Our third little one is scheduled to arrive the very week of the Wiley family’s annual trip down to Ft. Myers, the beach tradition Grandpa and Grandma Wiley started back in 1957.

While we’ll miss being part of the yearly fun in the sun in early April, I will be happily sidetracked with the warmth of a baby girl curled on my chest. And then a few weeks later, I’ll be taking her along to the “beach house” all the same. Thanks, (in)courage, for bringing it back in all it’s casual comfiness. I’ve grown a bit since last year, but the (in)RL T-shirt still fits.

{Did you take part in (in)RL last year? What was your experience like? Register here to take part in your own local (in)RL experience.}

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On Paper, Real Life…and giveaway winners! {Preserve Your Story ~ Day 30}

I had a simple plan for Thanksgiving weekend. I’d bake a dozen biscuits, simmer a batch of fresh pumpkin butter and head over for a hearty meal with the extended family. We’d settle in for good conversation on the couch while the kids burned off energy, sure to lead us to an early bedtime. We’d wake refreshed on Friday, clean the house and decorate the tree at nightfall to the sound of Christmas music and the smell of store-bought ginger molasses cookies baking in the kitchen.

But there were problems. A week-long migraine and its sidekick nausea had me in a haze. I left the pumpkin too long in the oven and my biscuits baked up like a tray of stones. At the Thanksgiving feast, the kids took a few nibbles and abandoned their plates for cookies and cupcakes when we weren’t watching. Grown-up conversation buckled under ref whistles and the roar of stadium fans. I always forget about the football games. I settled for a nap, trying to kick the migraine for good, but found myself too often in the middle of the kids’ tackle zone. On the way home, my firstborn tossed his cookies, puking in a Ziploc bag while I hung my head out the window dry heaving and trying to talk myself out of being a sympathetic vomiter. More kid puke after dinner. Friday, the migraine came back in full stealing away any urge to do housework and by the time my husband brought the Christmas decorations up from storage, he opened them to chaos instead of peace. Glass ornaments slipped from overzealous little hands and broke into shards on the floor, apropos.

I’ve chatted with some friends recently about the pressure of the holiday season, how it brings out the best of ideals and then shines light on how reality so often falls short. We deal with our little bit of sickness at home while one of our regular servers at a local restaurant bends from the pain of chronic arthritis with no money to pay for her pills. I grow my baby and plan delivery/recovery under watch of the best medical staff while women who live overseas near my friend Alyssa deal with the prospect that “just having a baby is a dangerous event. Women who suffer traumatic labor often lose their children to death and then face the embarrassment of incontinence–women who leak urine are ostracized by communities.”

This kind of awareness of the world and our feelings about it can sometimes leave us feeling short on holiday cheer, but can also be the foundation for good non-fiction writing. Through experience or research, the non-fiction writer lays a problem or need out on the table and motivates the reader to turn the page to discover inspiration and practical tips for addressing the need.

Even in creative non-fiction, which tells a story of personal experience, the author presents a need and shares solutions, even if in a more subtle way. Ann Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts starts out with a heart wrenching first chapter that gives the raw story of what’s wrong with the world, the crushing pain and loss that can cripple a person’s emotions and leave her ill-equipped to carry out her calling. We are hurried, we are stressed, we are in need. But if we will only pay attention to the beauty around us and respond to its Giver in gratitude, we will find wholeness and joy.

What about your story? What is it that makes you angry, irritable or teary-eyed? What depth of need does your own idealism take you to? This is where you start and where your readers will start, too.

Once you have your passion picked, you’ll want to give it a name and a description. Make your title catchy and your subtitle descriptive. And then write out your premise including the problem/need and your overarching solution. From here, you can come up with an overview and chapter outline that will serve as your framework as you write.

These same ingredients are the basis for writing a proposal for presenting to a publisher. While fiction writers, especially newbies, usually submit a whole manuscript when seeking publication, non-fiction writers have the advantage of presenting the idea in mere proposal form to gauge interest before putting months or years of work into it.

In your double-spaced non-fiction proposal, you’ll want to include:

1. Title: This will be a working title that may change as the book progresses. Again, choose a catchy, interesting main title and a more descriptive subtitle that will clearly explain the contents of the book.
2. Premise: What’s wrong with the world? Why do people need this book? Present the problem/need and your basic answer for it.
3. Overview: Stemming from your premise, write several paragraphs going into more detail about the content of the book.
4. Bio: What is your platform? What characteristics and experience make you the perfect one to write this book? Detail aspects of your background that give you special insight or expertise on the issue. Share past publications and writing experience that will equip you to complete this project. While you want to present yourself at your best with no self-deprecation, some writers shift into 3rd person for this section so it doesn’t sound self-focused.
5. Audience: Who is this a must-read for? Who is your target audience? The more specific you are, the better your aim will be. Include gender, age, profession, etc. (For the writing process itself, some authors picture a particular person or character to make their writing more personal.)
6. Competition: Differentiate your book from classics or current reads on the same issue.
7. Promotion: What creative ideas do you have for getting the word out about this book? Can you recommend certain trade show, conventions, or organizations? Do you have connections with high profile individuals who can help promote your book?
8. Outline: Provide a mini-synopsis of each chapter, preferably in the same style of writing as your chapters themselves. You may include your estimates of manuscript length and possible publication date here as well.
9. Samples: Provide one or two chapters of sample writing for this particular book. Many publishers prefer to see something other than the first chapter.

We’ll talk more about the publishing process as a whole in our final post, but hopefully this will get you started in turning your ideals into something that transforms both writer and reader.

Back at the Christmas tree, I pulled the last of our garland from the box unraveled it and circled it around, all these scraps from the hem of my wedding dress now adorning evergreen branches. These meaningful pieces, these cast-off strips of fabric, somehow made things feel right in our little corner of the world. Each night now, when I leave off my writing and follow my husband to bed, I turn off the lights and find this little surprise of light in the dark, an ideal gleaming.

{What experience or idea do you feel compelled to share? Spend some time working on a 3 to 5 sentence summarizing the need and solution. Share below.}

And now, the winners of our Blog that Blossoms Giveaway….

Results were picked at random from all 72 eligible comments.
Our first winner with comment #19 is Carrie. Congratulations on your free No Brainer Blog eBook!
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We’ll be contacting you both soon with details on how to claim your winnings. Thanks again for the enthusiastic response of all who participated. I look forward to getting to know each reader in greater depth in days to come. And for those who didn’t win the giveaway, be sure to get your own copy of The No Brainer Blog here!

This is Day 30 of my series 31 Days ~ Preserve Your Story, linking up with The Nester’s annual 31 Days of Change.

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